Muslim Women marrying Non Muslim men

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                                                                   UPDATED ON 05/30/2016
Increased migration, education from western institutions and use of social media have equally increased the interaction among people across the world. One of the results being– increased interfaith marriages.  This phenomenon, few decades back, had been evident in Africa and the Middle East but was a rarity in other parts of the world. Then it started taking roots in India as a result of its deliberate and targeted policies, gnawing away the Muslim’s Personal Family law and religious traditions. As a result, inter-faith marriages are a common place in India now.  In the Wes,t however, it is a result of anti-organized-religions, anti-Nationalism doctrines espoused in Schools, Colleges and Universities. A significant increase in inter-faith marriages ensued, hence a common place in the West as well.
It is to be noted that in the West this movement, unlike India, is not anti any particular religion but across the board and also has a societal and cultural homogenization dimension. Its main catalyst, in my assessment, is the loss of faith in Christianity and political system.  Especially in the face of various sects of Christianity being at logger-head, considered impeding and corrupting the political system.
In India, an anti-religion movement is targeted (against Muslims) whereas Hindu extremism is being encouraged at National level.
Islam being the last of the organized religions has a well-defined code of life including marriage. Its injunctions, most often, are considered stringent and draconian by westerners as well as by some Muslims. This treatise would, therefore, provide the rationale, reasoning and logic for strict implementation of these codes, in the broader sense, and with a special emphasis on the impermissibility of marriage between a Muslim woman and a Non-Muslim man.
Surah Baqarah 2, V – 221
“And do not marry an associating (Mushrik) women unless they come to faith; a Muslim-slave-girl is better than an associating (Mushrik) woman, even though she may please you”.
And do not give your women in marriage to associating (Mushrik) men unless they come to belief; a Muslim slave man is better than an associating (Mushrik) man, even though he may please you BECAUSE—they invite you to Hell fire whereas God  invites you to salvation by His grace”
(Associating here includes idolaters, those creating additional gods or assuming someone, something as an intermediary interceding–without His permission).
Surah Al-ma’eda (Table) 5, V 5
“So are the virtuous women of the believers and virtuous women of those who received the scripture before you (lawful for you)—When—you give them their (dower) and live with them in honor” (Dower and living in honor here means proper marriage) In this Verse a hint at the importance of a chaste woman ha s been given; yet marrying an unchaste woman has not been made unlawful provided, she chooses to stay in fidelity thereafter. It is to be noted that above quoted partof the verse 5 is the therewithal of the permissibility of the food of the People of the Book for Muslims; carrying the same rhythm and flow. Marriage with a man or woman (other than with people of the Books) would also be permissible only upon their acceptance of Islam. This view has been endorsed by noble companions   of the Prophet (PBUH). Abdullah Ibn Umar (R.A) and Umar Farooq  (R.A) are two of them.
Those who subscribe to the permissibility of Muslim men marrying women of people of book,(Hanafi School of thought) without their accepting Islam, yet consider it reprehensible (Mukrooh).
Although there is a clear difference of opinion among Muslims scholars with regard to above quotedSurah 5, V 5. One may however, ponder upon the rationale, reasoning and logic of conversion to Islam furthered by various scholars; pretty persuasive and convincing.
A Muslim adheres to five core beliefs— 1) Oneness of God. 2) Belief in Hereafter 3) Acceptance of Prophet Mohammad(PBUH) as last Prophet 4) jihad 5) performing Hajj (subject-to conditions) and offers 5   prayer. A Christians or A Jews fulfill only one or two requirements of Islamic faith respectively. None of them accepts the Prophethood of Prophet Mohammad (PBUH).  With the emergence of Prophet Mohammad all previous scriptures and Sharias stood abrogated.Therefore Jews and Christians despite being people of book are NON-MUSLIMS. (They can’t be treated at par with Muslims for marital purposes).
The point of concern here is the corruptibility of Islamic faith due to their Infidelity with their religions. The possibility of this happening is though lesser in the case of men (because their natural capabilities are more pronounced than those of women); whereas its possibility is greater in the case of a woman,therefore, marriage of a Muslim woman with a Non Muslim man has not been made lawful. This argument holds more water in present times; where a growing trend amongst Jews and Christian is complete disregard for their scriptures, their Prophets and even denial of God’s existence, caving in to anarchic-Atheism.
Surah Baqarah (Cow) 2, V 221
Confirms the above imperative when it declares that “Do not marry associating women until they believe” This verse therefore rest all the doubts.
Umar Al Farooq (R.A) upon hearing of the alarming currency of such a trend in Iraq and Syria stopped such marriages. The reason given was the religious and political corruptibility of Muslim families.There are few such cases cited in the Islamic history where Umar Farooq (R.A) was very vehement in this pursuit and asked Muslims to divorce Non-Muslim women.  Three such cases are those of—Hudhayfah Ibn Yaman,Talha and Kab Ibn Malik.
Apart from the above cited generalized reasons there is a logically reasoned Injunction issued by the Prophet (PBUH) which lays the ground rules as to why some marriages; particularly those of Muslim women with Non-Muslim men are not permissible. In Islam there is a concept of “Kuf” which means —equal, alike or matching. Under this Principal there are two sub clauses which need to be considered when accepting/rejecting the marriage proposals. These are “Lineal Homogeneity” & “Familial Homogeneity” Prophet has instructed that a girls should be married in their ”Kuf” means—equality(compatibility)—rather than equalness and likeness of spouses in their religion is incumbent and necessary for the validity of the marriage. Marriage of a Muslim girl with a disbeliever is not valid; even if girl agrees to it. (religio-legal verdict—hukame-tashriee).
The reason is that this is not simply the matter of “right of woman” which may be dropped at her pleasure. Instead it is the “right of God –a Divine- injunction” under the clause of Familial Homogeneity. However, the lineal Homogeneity (which includes financial & family status etc) is the right of woman and that of the parents of the girl; which can be dispensed with for expedient reasons or   higher-religious reasons. Should this be for religious reasons it would be considered praiseworthy.
A question or doubt may be raised about the whole religio-legal-verdict stated above. The validity of it has very eloquently and in unequivocal terms been stated in Qur’an as– “Prophet has more right on men and women of his (Ummah) community than their own selves” and also that “And it becomes not a believing man or woman, when Allah and His prophet have decided an affair (for them) that they should claim any “say” in that matter”      Surah Al Ahzab 33, V 6 & 36
Finally, Allah forbade such relationship in categorical terms in Surah “Mumtahinah”–She who is examined #60, V – 10–in the following words “Neither these (Muslim women) are lawful for them, Nor are those (unbelievers) lawful for these (believing) women” All such relationships which existed at the time of revelation of this verse were ipso-facto severed.
It is hoped that this treatise would help many men women in tackling this pandemic with Divine guidance, provided through Qura’an and Hadith; while applying human logic and reasoning rather than sentimentality.

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