Archive for August, 2019

Is Wife a Sex- Slave?

August 29, 2019

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“A Muslim wife must not refuse to satisfy the sexual urges of her husband as and when demanded”

There seems to be some misunderstanding here; in justification whereof; often quoted verses, in addition to some ahadith are; –

1 “Man is a degree above them (women) [in authority and responsibility] …women be devoutly obedient” (Q, 4:34)

2 “Your women are a tillage for you; so, come unto your tillage as you wish”.    (Q, 2:223)

This dissertation may be better understood by trifurcating into; Psychophysical, behavioral and spiritual segments, successively.

Authentic ahadith, in essence, make a woman obligated to fulfill her husband’s sexual desires as and when demanded and should not refuse. (unnecessarily)

Here are two things to be borne in mind that; keeping husband satisfied would endure and perpetuate the marital and family life. It is also in consonance with a woman’s exhortative libidinal wanderlust. It is hard to imagine that a woman; who is lured into sexual overture by a legitimate partner; would not be thrilled to jump on it unless inhibited by some stone-cold reason?

Women, especially of the feminist mindset, interpret these verses/ahadith; suggestive of women’s “obligation”, as if these have enforced some kind of bondage or sex slavery.

A general tendency, often exhibited, is that we take a verse/hadith in Isolation and interpret it in black and white!

Islam (through Qura’anAhadith and Sunnah) molds human behavior to employ rationality, reason, logic and somewhat common sense (to harness one’s understanding and interpretation) to achieve the ultimate goal; through habituated behavior of obedience/compliance, a successful end of the sojourn. {coerced compliance would make the whole edifice come to naught}

“Had your Lord willed, all the people on earth would have believed. So can you [Prophet] compel people to believe?”(Q,10:99)

There are many traditions emphasizing upon the importance of legitimate sexual satisfaction, of both the partners equally (including for pleasure). Legitimate sexual-activity attains the station of worship, sadaqah and sunnah.

I wonder if there is any hadith/sunnah whereby Prophet is known to have ever forced any of his wives for sex?

CARDINAL RULE

One ought to; take the cumulative-contextual-sense of all the verses on the topic/issue; take the common(contextual) theme of the authentic ahadith  {which must be in conformity with the Qura’anic dictum}; then get to the gist/essence of the injunction, reposing one’s trust in Allah (SWT) to guide him on the right course. (Q, 2: 85 & 4: 150) [Ijtihad/Personal Ijtihad]

Note: – Every hadith; like Qura’anic verse; is necessitated by a context; which must be correctly established, for its correct understanding and application. 

In regard to the wife’s “obligation” to husband’s sexual satisfaction; one should keep the following things in mind; 

A wife’s sexual-satisfaction is similarly obligatory on the husband.

Compassionate, good treatment of women is commonplace in the Qura’anAhadith and Sunnah.

Moderation in behavior is the hallmark of Islamic teachings.

Ultimate pleasure sought/desired, through various acts/abstinences, is of Allah (SWT).

Therefore, the sexual satisfaction of the husband by his wife does not become mandatory/compulsory in all the circumstances but congruous, cogent and permissible ones, garnering the ultimate pleasure/blessings of Allah. Hence the verse is suggestive/advisory of the obligation; without making it mandatory in disregard of the behavioral or circumstantial swings; discounting the botched concept of bondage/slavery of a devoutly obedient wife. {Vindicated by the proscription of the sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman}It is a state of impurity; so, keep away from the women in the state of menstruation, and do not approach them until they are cleansed (Q, 2:222)

Marital rape/forced-sex

Woman having been granted the highest status; such as; the mother of the Prophets; the mother of the faithful; cannot be imagined, to having been made slavishly subservient to the indecorous sexual urges of the husband.

Some scholars try to justify the sexual-satisfaction-right of the husband; even when secured through coercion, by using an apparently formidable but in reality, an untenable argument.  The justification generally presented; in denial/suppression of woman’s feelings, dignity and free-will; is the pleasure of Allah (SWT); which no Muslim would normally dare, differ with or challenge!

In my humble opinion; sexual satisfaction obtained by coercing one’s wife, as if she is a lump of dead meat; in the face of the man having multiple options/rights of divorcing, having more than one wife and marrying another woman, cannot be justified. On the other hand; the woman who is not inclined/agreeable to having sex with the husband, must be having a sound reason(s) (psychological or physical incongruity) for it. Therefore, forcing her would not make her either in obedience/compliance of the desires of the husband or of the will of Allah (SWT). Neither will there be a sense of satisfaction/fulfillment on the part of the husband (normally derived from the mutuality/consensual participation of the two); but mere ejaculation, coupled, most likely, with remorse and guilt.

{The emphasis placed; on the compassion; hygienics; good smell and foreplay, therefore, tacitly predicates for a consensual/participatory sex} 

 

Further reading on the topic of women;

https://shakir2.wordpress.com/2018/01/11/a-womans-place-in-islam/

https://shakir2.wordpress.com/2015/06/22/muslim-women-marrying-non-muslim-men/

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Might is right!

August 27, 2019

Meat is shaped like a map of the Middle East. Uncle Sam is asking Bibi, “Which part would you like?”

Every rich country follows a rule of law; of its own making; of its own choosing, to serve it the best. Poor ones just abide by. 

 

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Insatiably Expansionist India! 

August 7, 2019

Israel following its footsteps—making them HIV countries!                                    {Hindi, Hebrew—India, Israel—Violence in occupied territories}

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We all know India with different references, such as; the biggest democracy, the most diverse country, culturally/historically richest country, the second most populated country, largest number of poverty-ridden people’s country (370 mil), world biggest slum country, biggest open latrine country, the rape capital of the world country, butcher of Gujrat country (Modi-P.M burnt Muslims alive), Hindu-extremism epitome country, Untouchables class of human country, etc. Very few people, however, know that it is the most vicious and voracious country when it comes to annexation or devouring of smaller neighbors. So far it has devoured 13 independent territories and has aggressed against 5 territories of (China, Mauritius, Bhutan, Sri Lanka and Pakistan).

 Annexation of Kashmir 1947

Annexation of Manipur 1948

Annexation of Tripura   1949

Annexation of South-Tibet 1951

Annexation of Andaman Islands 1956

Annexation of Nicobar Islands 1956

and many others out of 1208 Islands.

Annexation of Goa 1961

Annexation of Kalapani, Nepal 1962

Annexation of Turtuk, Pakistan 1971

Annexation of Tin Bigha, Bangladesh 1972

Annexation of Sikkim, [whole country] 1975

Annexation of Duars, Bhutan 2006

Annexation of Moreh, Myanmar 2013

 

Aggression against China (defeated) 1962

Invasion of Mauritius (aborted) 1983

Attempted annexation of Bhutan (failed) 1990

Indian attack on East-Pakistan (separated to become Bangladesh) 1971

Tamil Tigers (Indian created ISIS) insurgency in Siri Lanka, 1983-2009 (defeated)

https://shakir2.wordpress.com/2016/04/02/ugly-face-of-western-darling-india/

More than 100, 000 Kashmiris have lost their lives, tens of thousands of women, including underage girls, as old as 8 years, raped, thousands maimed and blinded by the pellet guns used by 600,000 strong Indian-army stationed in Kashmir!

A Great Threat to the People of the entire world, South Asia, Including the People of India.

https://shakir2.wordpress.com/2018/12/03/reposing-hindu-identity-in-requiem-mass/

In her latest attempt India has announced trifurcation [Jammu, Kashmir and Laddakh] of IOK (Indian Occupied Kashmir) formally annexing it to the already botched Indian Union, Under the umbrella-coverage of clause 371 of the Indian constitution, Kashmir was allowed to maintain its independent character—having its government, flag, constitution and autonomy [except defense and foreign policy]—so, the foreigners were not allowed to buy properties and thus change the demographics of the territory. Abrogation whereof, {through illegal presidential order}, would do away with the independent character of Kashmir, and allow the Indian government to settle Indians there and change the demographics to maneuver the plebiscite results; adopted under the resolution 47 by the U.N in April 21st, 1948

The relegation of autonomous state status to a union territory is unprecedented.

https://shakir2.wordpress.com/2017/09/25/balkanization-of-india/

India knows it well that, his lackeys have done the spadework rendering Pakistan at the verge of financial collapse, therefore, Pakistan would not be able to take any stringent action in the wake of the annexation of Kashmir. India has chosen the timing with due diligence and planning. Pakistan is not only facing dire financial straits but also under the sword of IMF and FATF. Pakistan doesn’t have the appetite to engage in a stern armed confrontation, for it would not be able to sustain, but for a brief period.

Had the Gen. Musharraf’s Siachen-glacier adventure not been thwarted by the Indian lackey PM of the Pakistan, Kashmir issue would have long been resolved!

https://shakir2.wordpress.com/2019/09/23/mikhail-gorbachev-of-india/

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