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Camouflaged-Narcissist in our ranks! 

November 18, 2019

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder[1] in which the individual is described as being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity. Narcissistic personality disorder is closely...

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) The hallmarks of a narcissistic personality (NPD) are grandiosity, arrogant thinking, a lack of empathy for others, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently characterized as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also have grandiose fantasies and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics normally develop in childhood/early adulthood; often due to some deficiency, defect, abuse or overpraise, etc. and start being consistently exhibited in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships.

People with NPD often (being status-conscious) try to associate with people; who they believe are, of high-status, unique or gifted in some ways, to enhance/boost their own self-esteem/ego. They tend to seek excessive admiration and attention while having difficulty in tolerating criticism or defeat. They are not sincere to anyone, not even to themselves, for they are living in a self-constructed bubble of megalomania.

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Such a personality would splurge empathy and concern for others; just to impress people around, to elicit their praise and attention.

It is not always easy to recognize a narcissist in our ranks, for they are a master of camouflaging their personalities. One may not, in the beginning, suspect a person until, either get whacked or aghast by his unbecoming behavior.

Such people always convey (through their manipulative skill) that they are important, wise and above any insult or attack, therefore, they must be respected and taken seriously, no matter what!

Most often than not, sometimes, however, purely a product of their conceptions, they have a defective personality. It is believed that among the reasons for their behavioral anomaly is, one or many of the; genetic, psychological trauma, short stature, poor eyesight or something of a similar nature. Other likely contributing factors may be, dysfunctional family, excessive criticism, overpraise, overprotection, abuse, and demanded of high expectations, etc.

They tend to offer their views/opinions on any subject, despite having barely any or no knowledge of it. This tendency is rampant amongst the narcissists holding Ph. Ds in odd fields; who take it for granted; as if they have been granted a license by the Church of England, to delve on any topic/subject under the sun—including some highly specialized ones! Surprisingly, if challenged by someone; they would try to hush up the challenger, by all means, even by resorting to some unauthentic, cheapskate, or below the belt, tactics. Such people, most often profess to be; secular, progressive, enlightened, atheistic, above and beyond the constraints or etiquettes of any field of knowledge. They would, nevertheless, not hesitate to quote a Saint, Sufi, Scriptural text or a famous personality—merely having heard of in passing— to intimidate/impress/win-over the addressee(s).

A good way to gauge a narcissist is; when an insult is hurled at a person; not present but well known or related to him (except, blood/close relations or spouse, etc.), by observing his reaction. If he enjoys it without expressing any discomfort or dislike, it is most likely, that you are taking a narcissistic in your stride. (repeatability of such a response would cement the conclusion).

Such people may not be harmful but would not be helpful or sincere either. They may be good—only—for an occasional pass time, without any attachment/expectation whatsoever.

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